After attending a memorial service of a dear friend, a group of ladies who also attended the funeral decided to meet up for dinner and a movie. The movie we decided to go see was titled “Girls Trip“. We had no idea the many lessons we would learn during this hilarious, entertaining, shocking and thought-provoking girls flick about friendships. Prior to watching this movie, I had been thinking about Friends vs Friendships. I realized I have many friends but how many of those would I consider a Friendships. As I revisited the parts of the movie that resonated with me, I realized I only had a few healthy friendships. Say it ain’t so! So, I decided at this point in my life, it was time for me to re-evaluate the friendships in my life.
As I thought about this movie and other shows about friends, I noticed some commonality between the friends. They all had something in common. See Table Below:
|TV Show ‘Cheers’||Interest – Sports Bar|
|Movie “Girls Trip”||History – College|
|TV Show ‘Friends’||Neighbors and Cafe|
Even if two people have similar history, interest or values, it doesn’t always develop into a friendship. What I realized is that I am a friendly person and meet people wherever I go. You could say I make friends easily. Look at how many friends you have on Facebook or other Social Media. I have friends mostly because of our history (Church, Neighborhood, High School, College) or common interest (Singing, Music, Photography, Community Service, Career). However, most of these friends have not developed into a true and healthy friendship. I began to ask myself, “What does a healthy friendship look like”?
Here are my Top 10 Tips to a Healthy Friendship
- Be the friend you want – “Be a True Friend Yourself”
- A true friend accepts you for who you are (your differences)
- Will put your best interest above the friendship; doesn’t hold back from telling you something you don’t want to hear if it’s for your good
- Inspires you and encourages you to be the best you
- Will be there to pick you up when you fall (Got Your Back)
- Never ask you to compromise your beliefs or principles over the friendship
- Mutual respect, mutual understanding, mutual appreciation, give and take, respect different points of view
- You can Laugh, Joke and talk to each other
- They are there when the other needs you
There are many benefits of a Healthy Friendship. I’ve listed a few below. Also, you can check out more information about the benefits in this list by the Mayo Clinic Staff: Benefits of Healthy Adult Friendships
- Increase your sense of belonging and purpose
- Boost your happiness and reduce your stress
- Improve your self-confidence and self-worth
- Help you cope with traumas, such as divorce, serious illness, job loss or the death of a loved one
- Encourage you to change or avoid unhealthy lifestyle habits, such as excessive drinking or lack of exercise
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